The BDSM AND PEOPLE MIRROR.

EXPERIENCING BDSM YOUR WAY!

I remember a story that made me think a lot about the various types of people who exist in humanity. An evangelical lady sought her pastor with a very big question she said: "Pastor is a sin to have sex through the anus with my husband?" The priest then responded emphatically, "the anus was made to expel that does not provide the body and is not a sexual organ, so it is sin, never do because it is displeasing to God!" After a while the couple separated, I due to many other problems as well, you left this church ... 

What made me think, is how people have a need for others to come to tell you how to act and how to use their sexuality. 

We bdsmers would say: "We would never do that advise how to relate sexually!" But many do this all the time: "who does this is not bdsmer, that is spicy vanilla, practice well or roasted is not permissible to do. ... etc. we like to act like that shepherd with his sheep, say what to do and how to do, how one can live their sexuality! If sexuality was not that cake recipe was only follow and be happy (sqn ), it is a daily discovery!

There is a writer who reread Young's psychology, Joanna de Angelis  1 , it has an expression that I like: mirrors men.

 "Men mirrors are those who do not have own identity reflect the fad, the charges, the opinions of others" 2 

It is very easy to follow rules and regulations, it avoids to think and make decisions. Freedom creates anxiety, but it is the price of possible happiness and freedom!

Many beginning in BDSM, searching for information and to find out, is faced with many dogmas- like a religion; this may, it can not. It is true that to be a practice that a lot of delivery and has some practical risk, knowledge, care and consensual are key, but each relationship is one, as every human being is the expression of sexuality is personal. There is no form of cake, but an expression of desire and libido!

I know that the dogmatists will hate this text, but for those who like to tell you what to do and how, say, reflect, having knowledge of BDSM and essential care, if freedom is not what moves this way of life, paradoxical as it may be. Dominators and free, slave and free in their desires! 

We live the BDSM, with all the care and consensual, the way we want and that makes us realized!

Marcelo Santos